--- title: "On Becoming Yourself: Insights, Reflections and Resources (2)" description: ‘On Becoming Yourself’ explores neurodiversity-affirming blog posts on ADHD, autism, AuDHD, giftedness, 2e and authentic living for adults across Ontario. 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[![Visual metaphor for unmasking autism, depicting autistic masking, internal exhaustion, and autistic burnout symptoms as an individual removes a performed identity to reveal their authentic self. ](https://becomingyourself.com/hs-fs/hubfs/UnmaskingAutism_BlogImage.webp?width=365&name=UnmaskingAutism_BlogImage.webp)](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/unmasking-autism-hidden-cost-of-masking) Feb 27, 2026, 4:00:00 PM # [Unmasking Autism and The Hidden Cost of Masking](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/unmasking-autism-hidden-cost-of-masking) **TL;DR: Strategic Unmasking** - **Is unmasking autism always the goal**? No. Unmasking autism is a... [![Conceptual illustration asking “Is giftedness neurodivergent?” depicting the twice exceptional (2e) brain, giftedness with ADHD and autism, and the paradox of brilliance alongside burnout.](https://becomingyourself.com/hs-fs/hubfs/IsGiftednessANeurodivergence_BlogImage.webp?width=365&name=IsGiftednessANeurodivergence_BlogImage.webp)](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/is-giftedness-neurodivergent-understanding-2e) Feb 13, 2026, 4:00:00 PM # [Is Giftedness Neurodivergent? Understanding the 2e Paradox](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/is-giftedness-neurodivergent-understanding-2e) ***TL;DR: Is giftedness neurodivergent?*** - **The Verdict:** Yes, giftedness is a form of neurodivergence... [![Person contemplating what is AuDHD? ADHD Symptoms and autism overlap ](https://becomingyourself.com/hs-fs/hubfs/Is%20it%20AuDHD_%20Blog.webp?width=365&name=Is%20it%20AuDHD_%20Blog.webp)](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/what-is-audhd) Jan 30, 2026, 11:00:00 AM # [What Is AuDHD? Understanding the ADHD Autism Overlap](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/what-is-audhd) What is AuDHD? For many adults suffering with [ADHD symptoms](https://becomingyourself.com/adhd-therapy-for-adults-in-ontario), there feels like something “more” is... [![Man struggling with ADHD symptoms sitting overwhelmed, contrasted with adult man receiving therapy support for undiagnosed ADHD symptoms in men during counselling session.](https://becomingyourself.com/hs-fs/hubfs/ADHD%20Symptoms%20in%20Men%20%26%20Why%20So%20Many%20Go%20Undiagnosed.webp?width=365&name=ADHD%20Symptoms%20in%20Men%20%26%20Why%20So%20Many%20Go%20Undiagnosed.webp)](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/adhd-symptoms-in-men-undiagnosed) Jan 16, 2026, 1:27:04 PM # [ADHD Symptoms in Men & Why So Many Go Undiagnosed](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/adhd-symptoms-in-men-undiagnosed) *By: Michael Holker BSW, MSW Registered Social Worker | Psychotherapist * What if your struggle to... [![Person reacting intensely to perceived rejection, representing RSD symptoms in ADHD and autistic adults.](https://becomingyourself.com/hs-fs/hubfs/RSD%20Blog.webp?width=365&name=RSD%20Blog.webp)](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/what-is-rsd-signs-in-adhd-and-autism) Dec 23, 2025, 3:27:52 PM # [What is Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria & Signs You Experience It](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/what-is-rsd-signs-in-adhd-and-autism) Have you ever felt confused about a situation that ended with a seemingly odd response from someone... [![Adult figure transitioning from autistic burnout and sensory overwhelm into a calm space, symbolizing recovery and reduced neurodivergent symptoms.](https://becomingyourself.com/hs-fs/hubfs/AutisticBurnoutBlog.png?width=365&name=AutisticBurnoutBlog.png)](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/the-ultimate-guide-to-autistic-burnout) Dec 12, 2025, 10:00:00 AM # [Autistic Burnout: Signs, Causes & How to Recover — A Complete Guide](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/the-ultimate-guide-to-autistic-burnout) ##  **How do you know if you’re in autistic burnout?**   ## What is Autistic Burnout? Autistic burnout is a... [![Tall Poppy Syndrome for Audhd Indivduals](https://becomingyourself.com/hs-fs/hubfs/image-png.png?width=365&name=image-png.png)](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/breaking-free-from-tall-poppy-syndrome-for-audhd-adults) Nov 5, 2025, 9:34:45 AM # [Breaking Free from Tall Poppy Syndrome for AuDHD Adults](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/breaking-free-from-tall-poppy-syndrome-for-audhd-adults) “Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds.”— Albert Einstein *...* [![young blonde handsome man sits on armchair thinking what to do](https://becomingyourself.com/hs-fs/hubfs/thoughtful-young-blonde-handsome-man-sits-armchair-putting-finger-temple-looking-up-inside-living-room.jpg?width=365&name=thoughtful-young-blonde-handsome-man-sits-armchair-putting-finger-temple-looking-up-inside-living-room.jpg)](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/why-neurodivergent-men-struggle-to-recognize-their-own-needs) Oct 29, 2025, 9:40:20 PM # [Why Neurodivergent Men Struggle to Recognize Their Own Needs](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/why-neurodivergent-men-struggle-to-recognize-their-own-needs) "The most important thing in communication is hearing what isn't said." — Peter Drucker The day... [![a worried man standing with crossed arms between two coworkers having a difficult conversation in an office setting.”](https://becomingyourself.com/hs-fs/hubfs/pic%201%20(1).jpg?width=365&name=pic%201%20(1).jpg)](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/setting-boundaries-in-the-workplace-as-a-neurodivergent-adult) Oct 28, 2025, 9:57:02 AM # [Neurodivergent Burnout and Setting Boundaries at Work — A More Honest Framework](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/setting-boundaries-in-the-workplace-as-a-neurodivergent-adult) "When we avoid difficult conversations, we trade short-term discomfort for long-term dysfunction."... [![a mother and daughter showing self compassion during burnout](https://becomingyourself.com/hs-fs/hubfs/AI-Generated%20Media/Images/mother-daughter-engage-with-psychologist-discuss-unsettling-drawings.jpg?width=365&name=mother-daughter-engage-with-psychologist-discuss-unsettling-drawings.jpg)](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/neurodiversity-affirming-therapy-and-self-compassion-practices-for-neurodivergent-burnout) Oct 13, 2025, 9:49:52 AM # [Self-Compassion Practices for Neurodivergent Burnout — A Kinder Path to Recovery](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/neurodiversity-affirming-therapy-and-self-compassion-practices-for-neurodivergent-burnout) *By Michael Holker BSW, MSW, Registered Social Worker | Psychotherapist | Published: July 2026* *This...* [Prev](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself) [1](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself) [2](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/page/2) [3](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/page/3) [4](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/page/4) [Next](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/page/3) #### Welcome, We’re glad you’re here. Dive into articles, tools, and insights designed to help you better understand yourself, grow, and feel great. Whether you’re exploring neurodivergence, seeking tips for emotional balance, or simply learning more, we hope these resources support your journey. ###### **Anecdotes and Confidentiality** Personal anecdotes bring ideas to life and foster connection. The identifying details have been changed to ensure confidentiality. These stories illustrate concepts, acknowledging that everyone’s journey is unique. ###### **Disclaimer** This information is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice. Please consult a healthcare provider regarding any medical concerns. I am a registered social worker offering psychotherapy services to Ontario residents.  For a complimentary [Meet & Greet](https://becomingyourself.com/contact) or more on my practice, reach out! 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