--- title: "On Becoming Yourself: Insights, Reflections and Resources (2)" description: ‘On Becoming Yourself’ explores neurodiversity-affirming blog posts on ADHD, autism, AuDHD, giftedness, 2e and authentic living for adults across Ontario. 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[![Two people sitting together in a warm, reflective illustration about ADHD, autism, relationships, emotional safety, and neurodivergent connection.](https://becomingyourself.com/hs-fs/hubfs/ADHD%2c%20Autism%2c%20Relationships.webp?width=365&name=ADHD%2c%20Autism%2c%20Relationships.webp)](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/adhd-autism-relationships-connection-difficult) May 15, 2026, 9:00:01 AM ## [ADHD, Autism and Relationships: Why Connection Feels Hard](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/adhd-autism-relationships-connection-difficult) **ADHD and autism can make relationships feel difficult, not because of a lack of care, but because...** [![Adult building a more supportive life around executive dysfunction in ADHD adults, autistic burnout, sensory overload, and adult ADHD time management challenges.](https://becomingyourself.com/hs-fs/hubfs/How%20to%20Build%20a%20Life%20That%20Actually%20Works%20for%20Your%20Neurodivergent%20Brainv116-9.webp?width=365&name=How%20to%20Build%20a%20Life%20That%20Actually%20Works%20for%20Your%20Neurodivergent%20Brainv116-9.webp)](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/how-to-build-a-life-that-offers-executive-functioning-support) Apr 24, 2026, 4:00:00 PM ## [How to Build a Life that Offers Executive Functioning Support](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/how-to-build-a-life-that-offers-executive-functioning-support) *By Michael Holker, MSW, RSW · Updated October 2026* Is there a mismatch between your environment and... [![Woman rediscovering herself after being diagnosed with autism as an adult, moving from masking and self-doubt toward clarity, relief, and identity.](https://becomingyourself.com/hs-fs/hubfs/Rediscovering%20Yourself%20After%20a%20Late%20Diagnosis%20What%20Identity%20Looks%20Like%20on%20the%20Other%20SideV116-9.webp?width=365&name=Rediscovering%20Yourself%20After%20a%20Late%20Diagnosis%20What%20Identity%20Looks%20Like%20on%20the%20Other%20SideV116-9.webp)](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/what-identity-looks-like-after-late-diagnosis-of-autism) Apr 10, 2026, 4:00:00 PM ## [Diagnosed With Autism as an Adult: Rediscovering Your Identity After a Late Diagnosis](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/what-identity-looks-like-after-late-diagnosis-of-autism) *By Michael Holker, MSW, RSW · Updated October 2026* Identity after a late autism diagnosis means... [![Illustration showing two therapy paths representing how to choose a neurodivergent-affirming therapist in Ontario for ADHD, autism, and AuDHD adults.](https://becomingyourself.com/hs-fs/hubfs/choose-neurodivergent-affirming-therapist-ontario-audhd-autism-therapy.webp?width=365&name=choose-neurodivergent-affirming-therapist-ontario-audhd-autism-therapy.webp)](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/choose-neurodivergent-affirming-therapist) Mar 27, 2026, 10:00:00 AM ## [How to Choose a Neurodivergent-Affirming Therapist in Ontario](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/choose-neurodivergent-affirming-therapist) *By Michael Holker, MSW, RSW | Published July 2026 | Updated October 2026* For the high-achieving... [![Illustration of overwhelmed gifted adult with tangled thoughts representing why traditional goal-oriented therapy fails 2e adults seeking therapy for gifted adults in Ontario.](https://becomingyourself.com/hs-fs/hubfs/therapy-for-gifted-adults-ontario-2e-adults-goal-oriented-therapy.webp?width=365&name=therapy-for-gifted-adults-ontario-2e-adults-goal-oriented-therapy.webp)](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/therapy-for-gifted-adults-why-traditional-therapy-fails-2e) Mar 13, 2026, 10:00:00 AM ## [Why Goal-Oriented Therapy Often Misses the Gifted and 2e Adult](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/therapy-for-gifted-adults-why-traditional-therapy-fails-2e) Gifted and twice-exceptional adults often need a different kind of therapy, one built on a real... [![Visual metaphor for unmasking autism, depicting autistic masking, internal exhaustion, and autistic burnout symptoms as an individual removes a performed identity to reveal their authentic self. ](https://becomingyourself.com/hs-fs/hubfs/UnmaskingAutism_BlogImage.webp?width=365&name=UnmaskingAutism_BlogImage.webp)](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/unmasking-autism-hidden-cost-of-masking) Feb 27, 2026, 4:00:00 PM ## [High-Masking Autism and the Hidden Cost of Autistic Masking](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/unmasking-autism-hidden-cost-of-masking) Autistic masking means suppressing or compensating for autistic traits, such as hiding stims,... [![Conceptual illustration asking “Is giftedness neurodivergent?” depicting the twice exceptional (2e) brain, giftedness with ADHD and autism, and the paradox of brilliance alongside burnout.](https://becomingyourself.com/hs-fs/hubfs/IsGiftednessANeurodivergence_BlogImage.webp?width=365&name=IsGiftednessANeurodivergence_BlogImage.webp)](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/is-giftedness-neurodivergent-understanding-2e) Feb 13, 2026, 4:00:00 PM ## [Is Giftedness Neurodivergent? Understanding the 2e Paradox](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/is-giftedness-neurodivergent-understanding-2e) ***Key Takeways*** - **Is giftedness neurodivergent?** Many clinicians now describe giftedness as a form of... [![Person contemplating what is AuDHD? ADHD Symptoms and autism overlap ](https://becomingyourself.com/hs-fs/hubfs/Is%20it%20AuDHD_%20Blog.webp?width=365&name=Is%20it%20AuDHD_%20Blog.webp)](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/what-is-audhd) Jan 30, 2026, 11:00:00 AM ## [What Is AuDHD? Understanding the ADHD Autism Overlap](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/what-is-audhd) **AuDHD** is a community term for being both autistic and ADHD. It is not a separate clinical diagnosis... [![Man struggling with ADHD symptoms sitting overwhelmed, contrasted with adult man receiving therapy support for undiagnosed ADHD symptoms in men during counselling session.](https://becomingyourself.com/hs-fs/hubfs/ADHD%20Symptoms%20in%20Men%20%26%20Why%20So%20Many%20Go%20Undiagnosed.webp?width=365&name=ADHD%20Symptoms%20in%20Men%20%26%20Why%20So%20Many%20Go%20Undiagnosed.webp)](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/adhd-symptoms-in-men-undiagnosed) Jan 16, 2026, 1:27:04 PM ## [ADHD Symptoms in Men & Why So Many Go Undiagnosed](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/adhd-symptoms-in-men-undiagnosed) *By Michael Holker, MSW, RSW · Updated October 2026* ADHD in adult men often looks less like... [![Person reacting intensely to perceived rejection, representing RSD symptoms in ADHD and autistic adults.](https://becomingyourself.com/hs-fs/hubfs/RSD%20Blog.webp?width=365&name=RSD%20Blog.webp)](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/what-is-rsd-signs-in-adhd-and-autism) Dec 23, 2025, 3:27:52 PM ## [What Is Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria? Signs in ADHD and Autism](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/what-is-rsd-signs-in-adhd-and-autism) A message goes unanswered for an hour. A colleague’s reply feels a little short. Someone’s face... [![Illustration of a tired adult resting on a sofa under a blanket, with water and headphones nearby.](https://becomingyourself.com/hs-fs/hubfs/autistic-burnout-guide.webp?width=365&name=autistic-burnout-guide.webp)](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/the-ultimate-guide-to-autistic-burnout) Dec 12, 2025, 10:00:00 AM ## [Autistic Burnout in Adults: What It Is, Why It Happens, and How Recovery Begins](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/the-ultimate-guide-to-autistic-burnout) ## What Is Autistic Burnout? Autistic burnout is a state of deep physical, mental and emotional... 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