--- title: "On Becoming Yourself: Insights, Reflections and Resources | neurodiversity-affirming therapy" description: neurodiversity-affirming therapy | ‘On Becoming Yourself’ explores neurodiversity-affirming blog posts on ADHD, autism, AuDHD, giftedness, 2e and authentic living for adults across Ontario. image: https://becomingyourself.com/hubfs/Onbecoming%20yourself%2c%20resources%20for%20ADHD%2c%20Autism%2c%20AuDHD%20and%202e%20Adults-1.webp --- [Skip to main content](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/tag/neurodiversity-affirming-therapy#main-content) [![Becoming Yourself Logo - Secondary](https://becomingyourself.com/hubfs/Becoming%20Yourself%20Logo%20-%20Secondary.svg) ![Becoming Yourself Logo - Secondary](https://becomingyourself.com/hubfs/Becoming%20Yourself%20Logo%20-%20Secondary.svg) ![Becoming Yourself Logo - Secondary](https://becomingyourself.com/hubfs/Becoming%20Yourself%20Logo%20-%20Secondary.svg) ![Becoming Yourself Logo - Secondary](https://becomingyourself.com/hubfs/Becoming%20Yourself%20Logo%20-%20Secondary.svg)](https://becomingyourself.com) - [Home](https://becomingyourself.com) - [Services & Approach](https://becomingyourself.com/neurodiversity-affirming-therapy-ontario) - [Our Team](https://becomingyourself.com/team) - [Contact](https://becomingyourself.com/contact) - [Blog](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself) Open main navigation Close main navigation - [Home](https://becomingyourself.com) - [Services & Approach](https://becomingyourself.com/neurodiversity-affirming-therapy-ontario) - [Our Team](https://becomingyourself.com/team) - [Contact](https://becomingyourself.com/contact) - [Blog](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself) - [FREE Meet & Greet](https://becomingyourself.janeapp.com/#/list) [FREE Meet & Greet](https://becomingyourself.janeapp.com/#/list) [Blog](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself) Tags - [Autism](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/tag/autism) - [neurodiversity-affirming therapy](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/tag/neurodiversity-affirming-therapy) - [ADHD](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/tag/adhd) - [Burnout and Masking](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/tag/burnout-and-masking) - [Identity and Self](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/tag/identity-and-self) - [AuDHD](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/tag/audhd) - [Gifted and Twice-Exceptional (2e)](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/tag/gifted-and-twice-exceptional-2e) Search - [Autism](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/tag/autism) - [neurodiversity-affirming therapy](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/tag/neurodiversity-affirming-therapy) - [ADHD](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/tag/adhd) - [Burnout and Masking](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/tag/burnout-and-masking) - [Identity and Self](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/tag/identity-and-self) - [AuDHD](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/tag/audhd) - [Gifted and Twice-Exceptional (2e)](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/tag/gifted-and-twice-exceptional-2e) # Neurodivergent Journey neurodiversity-affirming therapy [![Five smooth stones balanced on a wooden platform supported by an intricate web of strings, overlooking a peaceful mountain landscape, symbolizing the hidden tension and effort behind high-functioning anxiety.](https://becomingyourself.com/hs-fs/hubfs/HighfunctioningAnxiety.webp?width=365&name=HighfunctioningAnxiety.webp)](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/high-functioning-anxiety-hidden-weight) Oct 25, 2026, 11:06:48 AM ## [The Hidden Weight of High-Functioning Anxiety](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/high-functioning-anxiety-hidden-weight) *By Michael Holker, MSW, RSW · Published October 2026 · Clinically reviewed by* [*Euodia Leung, MSW, RSW*](https://becomingyourself.com/euodia-leung) [![A person reading the room at a dinner table, smiling while their shoulders are tense — people-pleasing as a fawn response](https://becomingyourself.com/hs-fs/hubfs/PeoplePleasingFawnResponse.webp?width=365&name=PeoplePleasingFawnResponse.webp)](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/how-to-stop-people-pleasing-fawn-response) Oct 14, 2026, 9:31:55 PM ## [How to Stop People-Pleasing — When It Once Kept You Safe](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/how-to-stop-people-pleasing-fawn-response) You said yes before you checked whether there was anything left to say yes with. You apologized for... [![Adult relaxing with a journal in a sunlit living room, illustrating self-understanding and wellbeing through neuroaffirming care.](https://becomingyourself.com/hs-fs/hubfs/neuroaffirming-care-adults-self-understanding.webp?width=365&name=neuroaffirming-care-adults-self-understanding.webp)](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/neuroaffirming-care-expert-perspectives) Sep 25, 2026, 8:30:00 AM ## [Neuro-Affirming Care in Practice: 4 Therapists on What Helps](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/neuroaffirming-care-expert-perspectives) Neuroaffirming care is becoming more visible in conversations around autism, ADHD, and AuDHD, late... [![Euodia Leung, MSW, RSW, now accepting new therapy clients across Ontario at Becoming Yourself](https://becomingyourself.com/hs-fs/hubfs/EuodiaLeungRSW%20(1).png?width=365&name=EuodiaLeungRSW%20(1).png)](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/euodia-leung-rsw-joins-becoming-yourself) Sep 3, 2026, 3:05:30 PM ## [Becoming Yourself Is Growing: Euodia Leung, MSW, RSW Has Joined the Practice](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/euodia-leung-rsw-joins-becoming-yourself) *By Michael Holker, MSW, RSW · Published September 2026* **Quick facts** - **Who:** Euodia Leung, MSW, RSW —... [![Illustration showing two therapy paths representing how to choose a neurodivergent-affirming therapist in Ontario for ADHD, autism, and AuDHD adults.](https://becomingyourself.com/hs-fs/hubfs/choose-neurodivergent-affirming-therapist-ontario-audhd-autism-therapy.webp?width=365&name=choose-neurodivergent-affirming-therapist-ontario-audhd-autism-therapy.webp)](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/choose-neurodivergent-affirming-therapist) Mar 27, 2026, 10:00:00 AM ## [How to Choose a Neurodivergent-Affirming Therapist in Ontario](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/choose-neurodivergent-affirming-therapist) *By Michael Holker, MSW, RSW | Published July 2026 | Updated October 2026* For the high-achieving... [![a worried man standing with crossed arms between two coworkers having a difficult conversation in an office setting.”](https://becomingyourself.com/hs-fs/hubfs/pic%201%20(1).jpg?width=365&name=pic%201%20(1).jpg)](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/setting-boundaries-in-the-workplace-as-a-neurodivergent-adult) Oct 28, 2025, 9:57:02 AM ## [How to Set Boundaries at Work When You’re Neurodivergent (and Why It Feels So Hard)](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/setting-boundaries-in-the-workplace-as-a-neurodivergent-adult) "When we avoid difficult conversations, we trade short-term discomfort for long-term dysfunction."... [![Illustration of an adult wearing headphones and resting in a comfortable armchair beside a sunlit window.](https://becomingyourself.com/hs-fs/hubfs/trauma-informed-care-neurodivergent-adults.webp?width=365&name=trauma-informed-care-neurodivergent-adults.webp)](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/trauma-informed-care-for-neurodivergent-adults) Sep 12, 2025, 10:02:09 AM ## [Trauma-Informed Care for Neurodivergent Adults: Why Trauma Feels Different and What Helps](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/trauma-informed-care-for-neurodivergent-adults) Trauma-informed care for neurodivergent adults is therapy that recognizes how invalidation, sensory... [![A calm, softly lit therapy room with a sofa, blue and green cushions, and books on a coffee table](https://becomingyourself.com/hs-fs/hubfs/neurodiversity-affirming-therapy-autistic-adhd-adults.webp?width=365&name=neurodiversity-affirming-therapy-autistic-adhd-adults.webp)](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/neurodiversity-affirming-therapy-for-autistic-adhd-adults) Jul 9, 2025, 9:49:25 AM ## [How I Work: What Therapy With a Neurodivergent Therapist Looks Like](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/neurodiversity-affirming-therapy-for-autistic-adhd-adults) "The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change." — Carl Rogers I... [![Illustration of an adult holding a tactile object while talking on a laptop in a comfortable, sunlit room.](https://becomingyourself.com/hs-fs/hubfs/neuro-affirming-therapy-ontario-guide.webp?width=365&name=neuro-affirming-therapy-ontario-guide.webp)](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/neuro-affirming-therapy-ontario-guide) Jun 6, 2025, 8:30:45 AM ## [What Is Neuro-Affirming Therapy? What It Really Means (From a Therapist Who Lives It)](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/neuro-affirming-therapy-ontario-guide) “Healing should never require hiding."  Neurodiversity-affirming therapy works with the way your... [![Illustration of an adult with short grey curls and glasses resting on a wooden bench beside a flowering garden path.](https://becomingyourself.com/hs-fs/hubfs/acceptance-self-compassion-resilience.webp?width=365&name=acceptance-self-compassion-resilience.webp)](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/acceptance-self-compassion-resilience-guide) May 16, 2025, 10:05:55 AM ## [Self-Compassion and Radical Acceptance for Neurodivergent Adults: Quieting the Inner Critic](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/acceptance-self-compassion-resilience-guide) "You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection." —... [![Illustration of a woman setting her phone aside at a dining table, with tea and a closed notebook nearby.](https://becomingyourself.com/hs-fs/hubfs/importance-of-setting-boundaries.webp?width=365&name=importance-of-setting-boundaries.webp)](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/the-importance-of-setting-boundaries) Mar 7, 2025, 8:28:22 AM ## [Setting Boundaries as a Neurodivergent Adult: Protecting Your Energy Without the Guilt](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/the-importance-of-setting-boundaries) ## *"Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk...* [![Illustration of a thoughtful adult holding a glass of water at a kitchen table, with an open laptop nearby.](https://becomingyourself.com/hs-fs/hubfs/neurodivergence-addressing-substance-use.webp?width=365&name=neurodivergence-addressing-substance-use.webp)](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/neurodivergence-and-addressing-substance-use) Feb 28, 2025, 1:32:00 PM ## [ADHD, Autism and Substance Use: Understanding the Link](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/neurodivergence-and-addressing-substance-use) **Neurodivergence and substance use** describes how ADHD, autistic and AuDHD adults often use alcohol,... [1](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/tag/neurodiversity-affirming-therapy) [2](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/tag/neurodiversity-affirming-therapy/page/2) [Next](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/tag/neurodiversity-affirming-therapy/page/2) #### Welcome, We’re glad you’re here. Dive into articles, tools, and insights designed to help you better understand yourself, grow, and feel great. Whether you’re exploring neurodivergence, seeking tips for emotional balance, or simply learning more, we hope these resources support your journey. ###### **Anecdotes and Confidentiality** Personal anecdotes bring ideas to life and foster connection. The identifying details have been changed to ensure confidentiality. These stories illustrate concepts, acknowledging that everyone’s journey is unique. ###### **Disclaimer** This information is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice. Please consult a healthcare provider regarding any medical concerns. I am a registered social worker offering psychotherapy services to Ontario residents.  For a complimentary [Meet & Greet](https://becomingyourself.com/contact) or more on my practice, reach out! 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