--- title: "On Becoming Yourself: Insights, Reflections and Resources | Relationships and Boundaries" description: Relationships and Boundaries | ‘On Becoming Yourself’ explores neurodiversity-affirming blog posts on ADHD, autism, AuDHD, giftedness, 2e and authentic living for adults across Ontario. image: https://becomingyourself.com/hubfs/Onbecoming%20yourself%2c%20resources%20for%20ADHD%2c%20Autism%2c%20AuDHD%20and%202e%20Adults-1.webp --- [Skip to main content](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/tag/relationships-and-boundaries#main-content) [![Becoming Yourself Logo - Secondary](https://becomingyourself.com/hubfs/Becoming%20Yourself%20Logo%20-%20Secondary.svg) ![Becoming Yourself Logo - Secondary](https://becomingyourself.com/hubfs/Becoming%20Yourself%20Logo%20-%20Secondary.svg) ![Becoming Yourself Logo - Secondary](https://becomingyourself.com/hubfs/Becoming%20Yourself%20Logo%20-%20Secondary.svg) ![Becoming Yourself Logo - Secondary](https://becomingyourself.com/hubfs/Becoming%20Yourself%20Logo%20-%20Secondary.svg)](https://becomingyourself.com) - [Home](https://becomingyourself.com) - [Services & Approach](https://becomingyourself.com/neurodiversity-affirming-therapy-ontario) - [Our Team](https://becomingyourself.com/team) - [Contact](https://becomingyourself.com/contact) - [Blog](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself) Open main navigation Close main navigation - [Home](https://becomingyourself.com) - [Services & Approach](https://becomingyourself.com/neurodiversity-affirming-therapy-ontario) - [Our Team](https://becomingyourself.com/team) - [Contact](https://becomingyourself.com/contact) - [Blog](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself) - [FREE Meet & Greet](https://becomingyourself.janeapp.com/#/list) [FREE Meet & Greet](https://becomingyourself.janeapp.com/#/list) [Blog](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself) Tags - [Autism](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/tag/autism) - [neurodiversity-affirming therapy](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/tag/neurodiversity-affirming-therapy) - [Identity and Self](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/tag/identity-and-self) - [ADHD](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/tag/adhd) - [Burnout and Masking](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/tag/burnout-and-masking) - [AuDHD](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/tag/audhd) - [Gifted and Twice-Exceptional (2e)](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/tag/gifted-and-twice-exceptional-2e) Search - [Autism](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/tag/autism) - [neurodiversity-affirming therapy](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/tag/neurodiversity-affirming-therapy) - [Identity and Self](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/tag/identity-and-self) - [ADHD](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/tag/adhd) - [Burnout and Masking](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/tag/burnout-and-masking) - [AuDHD](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/tag/audhd) - [Gifted and Twice-Exceptional (2e)](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/tag/gifted-and-twice-exceptional-2e) # Neurodivergent Journey Relationships and Boundaries [![A person reading the room at a dinner table, smiling while their shoulders are tense — people-pleasing as a fawn response](https://becomingyourself.com/hs-fs/hubfs/PeoplePleasingFawnResponse.webp?width=365&name=PeoplePleasingFawnResponse.webp)](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/how-to-stop-people-pleasing-fawn-response) Oct 14, 2026, 9:31:55 PM ## [How to Stop People-Pleasing — When It Once Kept You Safe](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/how-to-stop-people-pleasing-fawn-response) You said yes before you checked whether there was anything left to say yes with. You apologized for... [![Gifted adult loneliness — a woman sitting apart, present in the room but feeling unseen](https://becomingyourself.com/hs-fs/hubfs/GiftedLoneliness-1.webp?width=365&name=GiftedLoneliness-1.webp)](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/gifted-adult-loneliness) Sep 1, 2026, 7:50:18 PM ## [The Existential Loneliness of Gifted Adults: Feeling Unseen](https://becomingyourself.com/onbecomingyourself/gifted-adult-loneliness) You might be surrounded by people and still feel like the only one of your kind in the room. Maybe... 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Dive into articles, tools, and insights designed to help you better understand yourself, grow, and feel great. Whether you’re exploring neurodivergence, seeking tips for emotional balance, or simply learning more, we hope these resources support your journey. ###### **Anecdotes and Confidentiality** Personal anecdotes bring ideas to life and foster connection. The identifying details have been changed to ensure confidentiality. These stories illustrate concepts, acknowledging that everyone’s journey is unique. ###### **Disclaimer** This information is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice. Please consult a healthcare provider regarding any medical concerns. I am a registered social worker offering psychotherapy services to Ontario residents.  For a complimentary [Meet & Greet](https://becomingyourself.com/contact) or more on my practice, reach out! 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