Are you Neurodivergent and on the Path to Self-actualization?
“The good life is a process, not a...
Welcome to Becoming Yourself Counseling, where understanding, acceptance, and personal growth are centre stage.
We honour the unique paths of neurodivergent adults, especially those navigating life with a late diagnosis of ADHD, autism, or AuDHD. Here we understand the journey from a place of lived experience and know it can be complex, filled with uncertainty, challenges in self-regulation, and often a drive to understand ourselves better and develop a more authentic self-connection.
Becoming Yourself is designed for you—where you can explore yourself in a nonjudgemental place, find compassion, and embrace your own strengths. Whether you're seeking to understand yourself better, manage the anxieties of life, learn to be more interpersonally effective or search for support that understands neurodivergent experiences, we're here to walk alongside you.
If you're ready to start, we're here with open hearts and minds, ready to support your journey of becoming yourself. Welcome—you're in the right place.
Our niche is crafted around meeting the unique needs of neurodivergent adults—particularly those who may have received a diagnosis or self-diagnosed later in life. If you're navigating the impacts of ADHD, autism, or AudHD, our approach comes with understanding and a commitment to your personal growth and well-being.
We value your lived experience, honour your resilience, and aim to support your journey with empathy and tools that respect your uniqueness. We approach therapy grounded in empathy, tailoring the process to you and with the belief that you deserve a life aligned with who you are.
We use an approach informed by various therapeutic modalities always tailoring it to your needs, empowering you to find your way of confronting the challenges you face towards the life you want.
In our sessions, we may address a range of topics that impact neurodivergent adults, from executive functioning pitfalls to rejection sensitivity to the challenging experiences of invalidation and sensory sensitivities; we recognize the pain these can cause and am here to support you. Here are some other examples of the areas I have worked with clients on:
For those who have been late-diagnosed or self-diagnosed, coming to understand and accept our neurodivergent identity later in life can be a seismic shift in our understanding of ourselves. We help you navigate the big emotions, deep questions and insights, and create a foundation for self-acceptance and growth that feels empowering.
Anxiety and depression are part of the experience of late realization of neurodivergence. We provide a safe, non-judgmental environment to explore these feelings, and we work with you to develop strategies and tools that help you manage and support your emotional well-being.
Developing self-compassion and learning to regulate emotions are important steps in developing resilience, handling rejection and developing a kinder way of talking to ourselves. We guide you through building strategies and pursuing a healthier relationship with yourself so you can respond flexibly to life challenges.
For many neurodivergent individuals, complex thinking patterns can be both a strength and a challenge. Through exploring perspective and tailored strategies, we support you in building the flexibility to approach life's challenges in new ways and develop self-understanding while respecting your unique ways of thinking and processing.
Our therapeutic work is rooted in the understanding that neurodivergent experiences are unique, valuable, and worthy of being met with genuine compassion and respect. We aim to create a space where you can unpack challenges without judgment, explore new perspectives, and cultivate skills that feel authentic to you. With a focus on both acceptance and growth, we’re here to support you in confronting obstacles, developing resilience, and, most importantly, connecting with who you are.
At Becoming Yourself Counselling, You are not here to change who you are; you are here to become more of yourself.
After years of feeling different without knowing why, I’ve come to a late realization—I’m neurodivergent. This understanding, whether from formal diagnosis or self-awareness, explains my lifelong sense of not fitting in. Instead of relief, I’m overwhelmed by emotions—resentment over missed opportunities, confusion about my identity, and grief for the years spent without answers.
Therapy offers a space to explore these feelings, make sense of my emotions, and integrate this new understanding into my identity. Together with my therapist, I work on self-advocacy, develop strategies for authentic living, and move toward self-acceptance, transforming confusion and grief into resilience and a renewed sense of self.
I’ve relied on substances to numb social anxiety, feelings of isolation, and overwhelming emotions. Hiding behind a false self has helped me navigate life but left me increasingly disconnected from who I truly am. What began as a way to fit in and escape fears has become a crutch, leading to strained relationships, missed opportunities, and deep regret for the life I’m not living. Trapped in a cycle of negative self-concepts, I’m constantly worried and afraid to face my emotions without substances.
Therapy offers a lifeline—a space to confront the underlying pain, unravel the false self, and learn healthier ways to manage anxiety. Through therapy, I can reconnect with my true self, challenge negative beliefs, and move toward a life of authenticity, healing, and genuine connection.
At work, I excel—I’m successful, respected, and confident in my abilities. Colleagues admire my drive, and I’ve built a strong reputation. But at home, it’s a different story. Relationships feel distant, and the responsibilities of personal life—managing a household, maintaining friendships, nurturing a partnership—are overwhelming. Despite my professional success, I struggle to apply the same skills to my personal life, leaving me confused and frustrated. I start to question my self-worth, feeling like an imposter as the gap between my work persona and personal relationships widens.
Therapy becomes a space to explore these contradictions, understand why personal fulfillment feels elusive despite professional success, and work toward balancing my external achievements with my internal well-being.
I dream of a life filled with purpose and meaning, but I feel lost and disconnected from that vision. Trapped in repetitive, unfulfilling routines, I feel empty and frustrated, with each day feeling like a missed opportunity. The gap between who I am and who I want to be feels overwhelming. Despite wanting real change, I’m paralyzed by doubts and fears, unsure if I’ll ever figure out how to live a fulfilling life. The distance between my current reality and my vision for a better future feels vast and intimidating, leaving me uncertain about where to start.
Therapy becomes a space to explore these emotions, unpack the fears holding me back, and find guidance to chart a path toward meaningful change. I seek therapy to gain direction, bridge the gap, and finally begin the journey toward a life that feels fulfilling and aligned with my deeper sense of purpose.
I’ve spent years blending in, constantly shifting my identity to meet others’ expectations, always adapting but never truly feeling seen. My life feels like a performance, wearing masks to navigate relationships and social situations. While this chameleon-like ability has helped me survive, it has left me disconnected from who I really am. Recently, I’ve realized this constant shape-shifting isn’t sustainable, and I long to understand who I truly am beneath the layers I’ve built. At work, I’m high-achieving and confident, but in my personal relationships, I struggle with authenticity, often feeling like an outsider, even among friends.
Therapy feels like the one place where I can finally peel back the masks, explore the complexities of my identity, and reconnect with the self I’ve long suppressed. It’s a journey toward discovering my true voice and building more meaningful, honest connections with the world around me
I care deeply about connecting with others, but no matter how much I try, I feel like I’m always missing the mark. Conversations often spiral into misunderstandings, leaving both sides feeling unheard and frustrated. It’s not that I don’t want to connect—I truly do—but something crucial seems to get lost along the way. I find myself pulling back, unsure of how to close the emotional gap that seems to grow with each interaction.
I often feel invested in building relationships, but I struggle to communicate effectively or understand the needs of those around me. Despite my efforts, I find myself wrestling with feelings of loneliness and disconnection, unsure of how to bridge the divide between myself and others.
Therapy seems like a necessary step—a space where I can work through the confusion, learn how to express myself better, and develop deeper, more fulfilling connections with the people in my life. It feels like a chance to reconnect with others in a way that finally feels authentic and meaningful.
You may have felt out of place for years, maybe even feel like an 'alien,' navigating an unsafe world. You recently discovered you're neurodivergent, and it feels overwhelming. You may be grieving the years spent without understanding who you were or wondering about what could have been different.
Have you been relying on substances or behaviours to cope with anxiety, stress, or feelings of isolation? What started as a way to manage difficult emotions now began to feel like a cycle of avoidance and self-sabotage. It's possible you may feel trapped, disconnected from who you are, and haunted by regret over lost opportunities or strained relationships. Are you looking for someone to hear you out, to develop strategies to change?
Professionally, despite all the stress, you're thriving—successful, respected, and ambitious on the outside. But in your personal life, you may find that relationships feel distant and everyday responsibilities are overwhelming. An inner critic drives you forward at work, but this same drive doesn't seem to bridge the gap in your personal life. The stress of driving yourself to achieve at work and feeling like an imposter, as though success in one area doesn't translate into self-worth, you're not alone.
I've always known I see and experience the world differently, and now I'm ready to fully embrace that uniqueness. I'm looking for growth, a shift from surviving to thriving. I am seeking practical skills and strategies to help me navigate life with more ease, and I'm ready to embrace my neurodivergence as an essential part of who I am. I'm prepared to face my fears and address obstacles I face to improve my life. I am looking for a supportive, growth-oriented therapy process.