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Becoming Yourself Counselling and Consulting

Welcome to Becoming Yourself Counselling

Therapist in Toronto | Online ADHD & Neurodiversity Therapy

A safe, affirming space for adults navigating ADHD, autism, and late diagnosis

Neurodiversity-Affirming Therapy in Ontario

If you’ve been recently diagnosed or are beginning to wonder if you may be neurodivergent, you may feel both relief and grief.

Relief in finally having a framework that makes sense of your experience. Grief for the years spent misunderstood, dismissed, or unsupported.

As a therapist in Toronto offering online therapy across Ontario, my goal is to provide a safe, validating space where you feel understood and hopeful.

Many of my clients in Ontario are late-diagnosed adults navigating ADHD, autism, or giftedness (2e). Some have tried therapy before and left feeling unseen. Others come to life during transitions, when old coping strategies stop working and identity questions feel too heavy to carry alone.

You don’t have to mask here. Together, we’ll explore your experience, identify patterns that keep you stuck, and develop strategies that allow you to live more authentically.

Book a 20-minute Meet-and-Greet to see if therapy feels like the right fit for you.

Therapist Michael Holker, RSW — supporting late-diagnosed neurodivergent adults in Ontario-1

Therapy for ADHD and Autism

Masking is the effort to hide or suppress your natural ways of being. For many people, especially late-diagnosed autistic and ADHD adults, masking comes with severe exhaustion.

Some clients liken this exhaustion to burnout. It’s also not uncommon for ADHD and autistic people to feel anxious and depressed as a result of masking.

If you’ve been searching for “autism therapy near me in Ontario” or “ADHD therapy in Toronto”, you may already know the weight of masking over time, and how isolated it leaves you feeling.

Therapy can also provide one of the first spaces where unmasking feels safe. Where judgment is set aside and authenticity is welcomed.

In our sessions, you don’t have to explain away your differences.

 Instead, we’ll explore them as meaningful parts of who you are, while developing strategies that help you move through life with more ease and self-compassion.

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What You Can Expect from Virtual Counselling

Seeking therapy as a neurodivergent adult could feel daunting, especially if past experiences left you feeling unseen.

My commitment as a neurodivergent-affirming therapist in Toronto is to create a supportive space where you can show up as yourself—no masking required.

In our work together, you can expect:

  •       A compassionate approach that validates your lived experience.
  •       Support for challenges like masking fatigue, burnout, rejection sensitivity, anxiety, or depression
  •       Space to reflect on identity, relationships, and values.
  •       Guidance toward greater self-acceptance and authenticity

Whether you’re looking for autism therapy in Ontario or online counselling that helps you navigate life on your terms, you’ve found a place that meets your needs.

Becoming Yourself offers accessible online therapy for adults across Ontario, including Toronto, Ottawa, Hamilton, London, and Mississauga.

Therapy for social and communication challenges in adults with ADHD, autism, or 2e

At Becoming Yourself Counselling, these four values guide everything we do:

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Acceptance

In a world that often asks us to change or conform, it’s easy to feel like we’re not enough. Here, your individuality isn’t just accepted - it’s celebrated as a strength. Acceptance means embracing where you are right now while creating space for growth. We’ll work to honour your strengths, validate your struggles, and help you reconnect with your authentic self.

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Understanding

We understand how lonely it can feel when your struggles are misunderstood or dismissed. That’s why we take the time to truly listen to your story - because your experiences matter. That’s why we take the time to understand your experiences and the challenges you face. We’ll explore your story with curiosity and compassion, helping you feel valued, validated, and deeply seen for who you are.

 

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Nonjudgmental

It’s natural to worry about being judged for your feelings or choices. In this space, every part of your story is welcome, and you’ll be met with kindness, not criticism. In therapy, every part of your journey is welcome, without judgment or criticism. This space allows you to freely express yourself and explore your experiences, knowing you’ll be met with kindness and acceptance.

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Compassion

When life feels overwhelming, it’s easy to turn that frustration inward. Together, we’ll replace self-criticism with kindness, creating the safety you need to heal and move forward with strength. We bring compassion into every session, helping you soften self-criticism and replace it with kindness and care. Compassion helps create the safety you need to heal, grow, and move forward with strength and clarity.

 

Why Clients Choose Becoming Yourself Counselling

As a therapist in Toronto and Ontario, I am passionate about working with gifted, AuDHD, and 2e gifted adults. My approach is rooted in compassionate care that sees you where you are and doesn’t believe you are broken.

Because you aren’t broken.

Choosing my services for neurodiversity therapy in Ontario gives you access to care that is tailored, practical, and relevant to who you are.

My clients report a sense of relief and a sense of acceptance, rather than judgment. For many high-masking adults, this is often the first time they feel relaxed in another’s presence.

Clients choose Becoming Yourself because:

  •       They receive specialized neurodiversity care.
  •       They want to work with a therapist who has lived experience, not just training.
  •       They enjoy relatable, research-informed support.
  •       They appreciate accessible, virtual therapy that works with their needs.
  •       They access therapy that is grounding and sustainable.
  •       They prefer practical and reflective counselling.

Is Neurodivergent therapy right for you?

My approach to therapeutic care might be right for you if:

  •       You’ve frequently felt misunderstood and pressured in therapy.
  •       You want affirming care that is based on lived experience.
  •       You want strategies that are based on your needs.
Adult with ADHD and autism feeling relief after dropping the mask

What Is Therapy for Neurodivergent Adults?

Therapy for neurodivergent adults focuses on understanding how your brain and nervous system process information, emotion, and social experiences differently.

Rather than trying to “fix” or “normalize you”, it helps you work with your brain. Together, we build strategies that align with your natural patterns, energy levels, and values.

Therapy for social and communication challenges in adults with ADHD, autism, or 2e
“Nobody realizes that some people expend tremendous energy merely to be normal.”― Albert Camus

Becoming Yourself often isn’t just about imagining who you could be,  it’s also about loosening the grip of who you were told you had to be.

Book a Free 20-Minute Meet-And-Greet

Schedule a short, informal session where we can get to know each other, explore your goals, and see if therapy feels like the right fit for you. No commitment required.

Neurodiversity-Affirming Therapy FAQ

 

What is neurodiversity-affirming therapy?

Neurodiversity-affirming therapy recognizes ADHD, autism, AuDHD, giftedness, and other differences as natural variations of the human brain, instead of problems to be “fixed.” This approach supports you in understanding yourself. This approach supports you in understanding yourself, reducing shame, and developing strategies that align with your strengths.

Can online therapy really help with ADHD, autism, or burnout?

Yes. Online therapy provides privacy and convenience while giving you access to specialized, neurodiversity-affirming support. Session focuses on your real struggles, like executive functioning, masking fatigue, rejection sensitivity, and anxiety, all while offering practical strategies you can begin applying right away.

How do I know if therapy is right for me if I was diagnosed later in life?

A late diagnosis can bring both relief and grief. Therapy provides a safe space to process that shift, reframe past experiences, and explore ways of living more authentically. Many clients describe this as finally connecting the puzzle pieces of their story.

What makes Becoming Yourself different?

Many therapy practices take a one-size-fits-all approach. At Becoming Yourself, I work specifically with late-diagnosed, gifted, and high-masking adults. My lived experience as a neurodivergent therapist, combined with evidence-informed modalities (CBT, ACT, CFT, DBT), allows me to offer both expertise and empathy.

How do I get started?

Getting started is simple. You can book a free 20-minute meet-and-greet session online to see if therapy is the right fit for you. From there, we’ll decide together if ongoing therapy is the right step for you.