What if your struggle to focus, chronic key loss, and constant fidgeting have a single cause?
That cause could be ADHD. And if you’re a man, there is a chance you may not know you’re struggling with it.
ADHD symptoms in men often go unnoticed by family, friends, and even some healthcare professionals.
Most people believe that ADHD is limited to hyperactivity in children and does not affect adult executive functioning. But the evidence says otherwise.
In adult men, ADHD more frequently shows up in other ways.
In adult men, ADHD more often shows up as:
For many men, these symptoms get translated as personality flaws or stress; ADHD is frequently overlooked. But why does this happen?
Socialization is one of the most significant reasons why men with ADHD often go undiagnosed. Men are socialized from a young age to push through difficulty, minimize emotional struggles, and avoid asking for help.
The result of this “socialization” is that ADHD symptoms go masked or internalized. Men also may overwork, be perfectionistic, or use substances to deal with their symptoms. Problems that come from this process are more likely to be labelled as anxiety, anger, or depression.
All of these symptoms contribute to late or missed diagnosis, especially in adulthood.
If this resonates, working with an adult ADHD therapist can help you understand what’s going on and what support looks like.
While ADHD presents differently across individuals, common patterns between men and women include:
Many men who have ADHD but don’t know it yet experience the following symptoms or may notice the following signs of ADHD popping up in their lives:
ADHD Symptoms in Men at Work and In Relationships
This reinforces why many adults only begin questioning ADHD later in life. When things start falling apart around you, many adults turn to experts to find out what is happening.
Even then, some experts who aren’t trained in ADHD symptoms in men may overlook the cause of the challenges in your life. This is why it is so essential to work with a therapist who specializes in adult ADHD diagnoses.
Untreated ADHD adults deal with a variety of issues in their personal and even public lives. In addition to issues such as disorganization, overtalking, or being easily distracted, you may also have secondary issues such as:
These outcomes are frequently treated without addressing the underlying ADHD, prolonging frustration and confusion.
Why Many Men with ADHD Also Have Depression & Anxiety
The cycle of chronic frustration and executive functioning struggles, including emotional regulation, poor focus, and organization, often led to burnout in men with ADHD. Additionally, ADHD itself lends itself to using avoidance as a coping strategy. And when life feels overwhelming, it’s natural for the body to become depressed. Couple this with neurotransmitter challenges, and anxiety also likes to show up when ADHD is unmanaged.
Yes, it absolutely is!
When your life has always felt draining, confusing, disorganized, and overwhelming, you may not know it’s possible for it not to.
Additionally, traditional signs of ADHD are more linked with hyperactivity and don’t represent the scope of what most adults with the condition experience.
For many untreated ADHD adults, working with an ADHD therapist is less about getting a label and more about doing things about:
You can learn more about whether or not I would be a good fit to help with your ADHD by visiting my about page or booking a meet-and-greet.
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