Living With RSD: How to Manage Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria as a Neurodivergent Adult in Ontario
What is AuDHD? For many adults suffering with ADHD symptoms, there feels like something “more” is happening in their experience. Symptoms that cannot be explained by ADHD alone.
AuDHD could be the answer.
Autism and ADHD are shown to co-occur more often than not. But what does AuDHD mean, and how might it show up for you?
By: Michael Holker BSW, MSW Registered Social Worker | Psychotherapist
What AuDHD Mean?
AuDHD is a community term for the co-occurrence of autism and ADHD in the same person. It is not a separate clinical diagnosis — clinicians record autism and ADHD separately — but many neurodivergent adults use “AuDHD” because the two neurotypes interact to create an experience that neither diagnosis fully captures on its own. Research suggests 50–70% of autistic people also meet criteria for ADHD.
AuDHD is not an official diagnostic term, but it is widely used to describe an individual who experiences both Autism Spectrum Disorder and ADHD together. Many individuals in the neurodivergent community use this term to describe their experience better.
For the sake of this blog post, keep in mind that AuDHD is a term used by the neurodivergent community to represent both of these neurodevelopmental differences. However, for the sake of clarity, AuDHD is often used by late-diagnosed adults and is not a separate diagnosis; it’s a term used to describe these co-occurring conditions.
Many people with both autism and ADHD resonate more with the term AuDHD because it represents their full spectrum of symptoms.
How ADHD and Autism Overlap in Adults
Neurodivergent symptoms that both Autism and ADHD share include:
- Executive dysfunction
- Sensory sensitivity
- Emotional regulation challenges
Where they differ:
ADHD = impulsivity, variability
Autism = predictability, sensory processing
The overlap between these two disorders can make diagnosis challenging. For example, ADHD traits tend to cause novelty-seeking, while autistics require a strict routine to feel grounded. From the outside, this creates an inconsistent pattern and can be confusing rather than simply resulting in an autistic diagnosis.
Adults with AuDHD learn to compensate early on in life. They may rely on structure to manage ADHD symptoms or use hyperfocus and push through environments that are actually overwhelming. Over time, this constant self-management can mask underlying traits, delaying recognition.
For a closer look at what the ADHD-autism journey looks and feels like over time, Understanding the ADHD-Autism Journeygoes deeper into the lived experience.
Common AuDHD Symptoms in Adults
The overlap between autism and ADHD can be a difficult thing to navigate, which is why identifying common symptoms they exhibit is essential. Not all symptoms are present in every person, so be advised that your experience may differ.
Emotional & Nervous System Patterns
- Emotional dysregulation (intense feelings, quick overwhelm, shutdowns)
- Heightened sensitivity to stress
- Strong internal reactions that may not be visible externally
Within AuDHD, these emotional and nervous system patterns can overlap with rejection sensitive dysphoria in ADHD and autism, where perceived rejection, criticism, or misunderstanding may trigger intense internal distress, overwhelm, or shutdown.
Executive Function
- Problems planning, following through, and prioritizing various tasks
- Trouble starting tasks or stopping once hyperfocused
- Inconsistent attention
Sensory & Emotional Sensitivity
- Sensory overload (light, noise, textures, crowds)
- Need for stimulation and need for quiet and control
- Feeling exhausted by everyday environments
Masking & Burnout - Long-term masking to appear “functional” or neurotypical
- Chronic fatigue or burnout, especially as an adult
- Feeling capable but constantly depleted
Identity & Internal Experience
- Feeling like ADHD and autism descriptions both fit your experience, but neither fully explains it.
- Feeling confused about what you need to feel better
- Persistent self-doubt or shame
Relationships & Daily Life - Difficulty balancing connection with the need for space
- Misunderstanding in communication or emotional expansion
- Feeling “out of sync” with social expectations
Burnout is one of the most common and least understood experiences for AuDHD adults — the ultimate guide to autistic burnout covers what it is, why AuDHD adults are especially vulnerable, and what recovery actually looks like.
Why AuDHD is Often Missed in Adulthood
Autism and ADHD are often assessed separately, making overlapping traits harder to identify. Masking and compensation can hide symptoms well into adulthood. We get good at hiding our childhood experiences and continue to do so as we age. Symptoms are frequently misattributed to anxiety, depression, or burnout.
With time, however, coping strategies begin to fail, and many adults start wondering if what they are experiencing is something more than depression.
How AuDHD Can Feel Different from ADHD or Autism Alone
Autism and ADHD are different from each other. For example, conflicting needs for simulation and predictability are familiar to people who have both. Strategies that help with ADHD symptoms may worsen autistic overwhelm, and vice versa.
As you continue to seek a diagnosis, you may get conflicting responses from healthcare professionals. This results in increased fatigue from managing competing cognitive and sensory demands.
It also increases the risk of burnout due to constant self-adjustment.
For a deeper look at the cost of sustained self-monitoring and adaptation, you may also find this guide to masking burnout from performing neurotypically helpful.
Support Options for Late-Diagnosed AuDHD Adults
Working with a neurodivergent-affirming therapist to understand overlapping patterns is one of the best things you can do if you suspect you struggle with autism and ADHD. Support focused on self-understanding rather than fixing or correcting behaviour is another option to consider.
Learning strategies that respect both executive function and sensory needs. It’s important to address burnout, shame, and long-standing self-blame. Exploring accommodations and routines that align with individual capacity can also be helpful.
Accessing virtual therapy options that support adults across Canada are an excellent way to start creating strategies that make the most sense for your experience.
If reading this felt like someone finally put words to your experience, AuDHD therapy in Ontario is designed for adults exactly like you — people who've spent years wondering why neither diagnosis on its own quite told the whole story.
If reading this felt like someone finally put words to your experience, the first step is a free 20-minute Meet-and-Greet — no pressure, just a conversation. Book a free 20-minute Meet-and-Greet.
Frequently Asked Questions
Q: What is AuDHD?
A: AuDHD is a community term for having both autism and ADHD. It is not a separate diagnosis — autism and ADHD are recorded separately — but it names the distinct experience of the two neurotypes interacting.
Q: What are common AuDHD symptoms in adults?
A: Common AuDHD symptoms in adults can include a pull between novelty-seeking and stimulation-seeking, often associated with ADHD, and a need for routine and predictability, often associated with autism. It can also involve executive-function difficulty, sensory sensitivity alongside stimulation-seeking, emotional dysregulation, and long-term masking that leads to burnout.
Q: How is AuDHD different from autism or ADHD alone?
A: AuDHD can feel different because the traits often conflict with and amplify each other. For example, a person may carefully build routines for stability and then find themselves derailing those routines because of ADHD-related novelty-seeking, distractibility, or task-switching. This interaction can make daily life and self-understanding harder than either profile alone.
Q: Why is AuDHD often missed in adults?
A: AuDHD is often missed in adults because autism and ADHD are usually assessed separately, and years of masking and compensation can hide overlapping traits. These traits are frequently misattributed to anxiety, depression, or burnout.
Key Takeaways
- AuDHD is a community term, not a separate diagnosis. It describes the co-occurrence of autism and ADHD in one person — clinicians record the two separately, but the term captures an experience neither diagnosis fully explains on its own. Research suggests 50–70% of autistic people also meet criteria for ADHD.
- Common AuDHD symptoms in adults include conflicting needs. The pull between ADHD-driven novelty-seeking and autistic needs for routine and predictability is a hallmark, alongside executive dysfunction, sensory sensitivity paired with stimulation-seeking, emotional dysregulation, and long-term masking that leads to burnout.
- AuDHD feels different from autism or ADHD alone because the traits conflict and amplify each other. Routines carefully built for stability can be derailed by distractibility or novelty-seeking, and strategies that help one profile can worsen the other — making daily life and self-understanding harder than either neurotype alone.
- AuDHD is often missed in adulthood because assessment and masking work against recognition. Autism and ADHD are usually assessed separately, years of compensation hide overlapping traits, and symptoms are frequently misattributed to anxiety, depression, or burnout — often until coping strategies begin to fail.
- Support starts with understanding, not fixing. Neurodivergent-affirming therapy focused on self-understanding, strategies that respect both executive function and sensory needs, and addressing burnout and long-standing self-blame are the foundations of support for late-diagnosed AuDHD adults.
Resources
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Townes, P., Rosas, S., Branco, L. D., de la Torre, G. G., Quintero, J., Miranda, A., Verté, S., & Coghill, D. (2023). Do ASD and ADHD have distinct executive function deficits? A systematic review and meta-analysis of direct comparison studies. Journal of Attention Disorders.
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Perry, E., Mandy, W., Hull, L., & Cage, E. (2022). Understanding camouflaging as a response to autism-related stigma: A social identity theory approach. Journal of Autism and Developmental Disorders, 52, 2488–2501.
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